Divorce, Communication Breakdown, No intimacy?

Men this is for you. Women, you’re welcome, feel free to send, tag, print and glue this to your husband:)

So you have been married 2, 7, 14, 20 years and one day the buzzing pauses and you stop and realize you aren’t that into your wife. Wait, or is your wife not that into you? What happened?  Read More “5 Things That Happen When You Stop Dating Your Wife”

Pare’s Rules of Engagement

How to Have  Healthy Conflict Resolution

If someone offered you a map to a  hidden treasure , you would take it!  That’s how passionately I feel about practicing the rules of engagement for your next conflict.

Conflict is healthy, conflict is natural, conflict builds intimacy. If your spouse refuses or is resistant to making these healthier changes, you might want to assess the health of your relationship and your partner. Abusive

(verbally, emotionally, psychologically) relationships often rarely have the Do’s and often have the Don’ts. Read More “Cheat Sheet for Healthy Conflict Resolution”

School is coming! Avoid the Battles with “Reward Rocks”

By: Pare Underwood

How can you get your kids to listen to you without absolutely losing your mind?!  Are you a “we will go get ice-cream if you do x,y,z” parent or are you a “You just lost your TV privileges” parent?

Sure, screaming and legal negotiations can get your kids moving, but what if everyone still had  smile on their face when you were correcting behavior or handing out chores?  Reward Rocks might just be your answer. Read More “Positive Reinforcement with “Reward Rocks””

Be Thankful for the Right to set Boundaries!

At last, Thanksgiving day! The day of thankfulness and reflection of the joys you have in your life! I truly do love Thanksgiving and the entire vibe of giving, sharing, abundance, relaxation, and family. It has all the perfect ingredients for an ideal Holiday. Unfortunately, family issues and relationship conflict are often called to the table… Read More “Turkey With a Side of Boundaries Please! How To Enjoy Thanksgiving with Family that stresses you out…”

Why don’t I feel good after we “agree to disagree?”

Many times when individuals come into couples counseling, I hear the dreaded well, “ we will just have to agree to disagree.” The only problem with this is that it is said with disappointment and contempt. Stop throwing in the “agree to disagree towel” Read More “Is “Agreeing to Disagree” Causing a Communication Breakdown?””

Is your marriage worth saving? Many times couples or individuals come into counseling with this very question at hand. Looking straight at me, hoping I will provide them with a definite and concrete answer of yes or no. Often these same individuals have been contemplating each scenario over and over for years. Here is the answer to the question… Read More “Read This Before You Give Up On Your Marriage”

First of all, a huge credit is due here to Bradley Craig owner of “Between Two Homes” for introducing me years ago to the co-parenting resources and movement here in North Texas. Brad took me on to be a part of his well researched and accredited co-parenting interventions, skills, and classes “Children in the Middle, along with introducing me the top-notch professionals working with families in transition in the area.” So what would all children…
Read More “Co-Parenting Tips…your kids want you to read this!”

Tired of looking through generic counseling and therapy websites full of headshots and comfy couches and still not finding the best fit for you and your needs? I get it. How in the world are you suppose to choose which person is going to give you the life-changing feedback and relief that you are desperately looking for?

The choices can be overwhelming, especially since you are typically searching for a therapist on your own.  Heck, I even bring a friend with me to go shoe shopping, so how am I supposed to trust my own judgment in selecting a “stranger” with my deepest fears, worries, weaknesses, and life story! So let me help you on how to get started on what might be the most powerful and beneficial relationship you might ever have…
Read More “Have You Found the Right Counselor Yet?”